Hey my new friend,
I’m glad to hear you’re interested in having a fun experience in hostels.
Right now, you’re probably already looking for a hostel. If that’s the case, you can check out the list of cities where I’ve shared my personal recommendations, or explore options suggested by our community.
But even if you’ve already booked your bed, you’re probably asking yourself: “What will it be like?” and “Where do I even start?”
That’s completely normal — don’t worry.
I’ll try to share my personal experience so it’s easier for you to understand what to do and how to behave.
Relax, make some tea, and take a couple of minutes to read this.
Please follow these 3 basic rules at all times:
Rules
- Everyone deserves privacy and respect for their personal boundaries
- No means no - don’t push it
- Mutual respect and consent are the key to everything
First steps
The first thing you should do when you arrive at a hostel is say hello.
Sounds simple, I know — but it’s the first bridge that creates minimal social contact. You’re no longer just strangers, you’re now “roommates who acknowledged each other.”
Then, if you have the option to choose your bed, take a minute or two to walk around the room, look around, and pick the best available option.
It’s important to immediately think in both directions:
- What will you see from your bed?
- From where will others be able to see you?
These are actually some of the most basic strategic questions.
Reading the room
After choosing your spot, put your вещи down, sit on your bed, and casually observe your roommates.
I know at first it might feel like it doesn’t make sense, but actually - from how a person looks at you, how they lie in bed, their posture, movements, and even how their stuff are spread around - you can understand their basic vibe.
Not “friend or enemy,” but more like:
- who is easy-going
- who prefers calm and privacy
This will be useful later. And at this stage, you’ll probably already catch your eye on someone 🙂
Set up your space
After that, do your small things:
- unpack your backpack
- arrange your stuff
- hang your towel
- adjust your pillow and blanket
Basically, make the space yours - you’ll be spending time here.
Tips
- Mini tip #1
Lie in a way so most of your roommates are in your field of view - ideally toward your feet. Also, if someone is close on a nearby bed, position yourself so your feet face them.
This way, just by lying down, you’ll see more than otherwise. It doesn’t work for every layout, but you’ll understand once you see your room.
- Mini tip #2
Always bring a change of clothes - like shorts and a T-shirt - something comfortable to wear around the hostel. And wear underwear, even if you normally don’.
Later you can adjust this depending on your openness, but for the first times, don’t go fully naked.
Why tip #2 matters?
It allows you to do a safe mini-experiment.
Change your clothes in front of your roommates, not in the bathroom or under the blanket - just casually standing near your bed.
The idea is to notice:
- who looks
- how they look
- who turns away
- who smiles
It’s a simple and safe way to read the room.
Chill phase
So now you’ve done your “recon”:
- someone glanced briefly
- someone looked away
- someone smiled
You have something to work with.
Now it’s time to relax: lie down, watch YouTube (please use headphones), and if the temperature allows: you can stay in shorts or level up a bit and stay in underwear, covered with a blanket. If someone is already interested, they’ll definitely notice and appreciate the view 😉
Evening
As evening comes, my advice is to spend more time in just underwear: lying in bed, walking around the room, going to brush your teeth (if the bathroom is inside the room).
Even something simple like that sets the tone for the evening.
Late evening
If it’s already late and most people are in bed - maybe even lights are off - it’s time for more noticeable signals.
Turn on your bedside light (most hostels have one), and take off your underwear.
Do it slowly, in a way that maybe nothing is fully visible, but it’s clearly understandable what’s happening.
For the first times, you can do it under the blanket. This acts as a signal to others who might also want to sleep naked but weren’t sure if it’s okay around you.
From my experience, about 1 out of 3 guys who saw me do this would do the same right after.
Observation
If a guy takes off his underwear after you, my advice is to pay closer attention to him. It could be a subtle “Hey, how ya doing?” kind of signal. You’ll likely figure it out later.
Timing
From what I’ve observed, the “horny hours” are:
- 23:00–02:00 right before bed
- 05:00–08:00 after waking up
I call them windows of opportunity.
Let the game begin
Before turning off the lights, do a small move: Let a small part of your butt (facing your roommates) slightly peek out from under the blanket. Do it naturally, like it just got too warm and you needed to “let some air in.”
At this stage, you’re probably scrolling Instagram - and I strongly recommend observing with your peripheral vision who is looking and how. A look doesn’t always mean something negative, but it also doesn’t always mean someone wants you. It’s more about noticing reactions. It’s a bit of a cat-and-mouse game.
Next step
So now you’re lying there:
- bare chest
- a bit exposed under the blanket
After some time — turn off the lights and your phone screen. We move further.
Touch phase
By now, you’ll probably be very turned on — all good, I get it. Since the room is dark but not completely, you can start small. Give yourself subtle touches:
- scratch your body
- scratch your chest
- touch your nipple
Light, slow, not obvious.
Preparing to “shake the tent”
When the lights from others are fully off, it’s time to prepare to “shake the tent.”
Start simple:
- just put your hand under the blanket
- don’t move yet, just leave it there
You can alternate:
- hand in for a minute
- then out again
If your anxiety is high, hold your phone in the other hand with minimum brightness and scroll — it helps.
Movement
At some point, when you’re ready, start adding movement slowly.
Be like a chameleon: one eye on your phone - the other observing the room
If the phone light makes it hard for your eyes to adjust, turn it off — after a couple of minutes you’ll see much better in the dark. Just wait.
Reading reactions
Over time, you might notice:
- someone looking
- someone making small movements too
- someone completely asleep
Keep going at your own pace, maybe slowly increasing the movement.
If you feel confident and there are no negative signals, you can fully remove the blanket and again start small:
touching your chestm your neck, and gradually more.
That’s it
Your first training day is complete.
Have an amazing and fun stay, my friend!
P.S. I truly hope you love yourself the way you are - and accept others the same way.
